How can I understand my husband better?

He is 34 and works a lot of hours at his law firm. At home all he seems to care about is golf, fishing and sometimes his xbox. He doesn't read novels or relationship/self improvement books but sometimes the news online or something like Maxim. He likes mostly action movies or comedies and when I got him to watch Pillars of the Earth with me he was okay at first but by the last episode he was cranky. He doesn't talk much unless I get him going, but he is very sweet once he does talk. Our romantic life is great but I feel like I don't understand him otherwise. Why is he like this? What else can I do to get to understand him like I feel I once did when we were younger?How can I understand my husband better?
Men need the "ME" time to be alone with themselves or even just BSing with buddies on the golf course. Instead of trying to get him to do stuff with you ask him to invite you to do things. which means he gets to choose the activity and you get time to relearn about your hubby....win win. But you have to be willing to suck it up and bait a fishing hook or play a shoot'em up video game. but you can't expect it all the time either. Don't smother him. Just tell him you would enjoy spending some time with him and you would like him to choose when and where and what your doing.....make sure he understands that bedroom activities don't count! lol!
Wow, it doesn't sound like the two of you have much in common any longer. Are you saying this is recent? Have you considered couples therapy? You could give that a try, if you want to stay with him. Communication is vital. Otherwise.. things are not likely to change. Good Luck and God Bless.How can I understand my husband better?
It is not what you should do, it is what you should let him know you feel. If he is sweet, then he will understand.
People grow and change, and behaviors are often reactive, rather than proactive- his lifestyle changes are likely caused by his lifestyle, as you'd expect. He's doing what he likes, most likely. Ultimately, if you're not happy, you have to find a way to make yourself happy. Communicate with him, if you feel neglected- he's not psychic, and if you're a stoic person who isn't making it obvious that she's lonely, it's your obligation to talk about it. He may be too preoccupied with his own goings-on right now, and if that's the case, it would be smart to remind him that he doesn't live in a vacuum.How can I understand my husband better?
Just sit him down and explain to him that you want to spend some more quality time together - dont start by telling him he cant do certain things you dont enjoy doing (never do that it will just cause a fight) ask him if you can start venturing out together, try some new things together so you can find some common ground again - and dont worry, it can happen in any marriage;) We just tend to get into some habits that get us stuck for a while and we just need some gentle reminders to get out of them.