Why is my husband like this?

He is 34 and works a lot of hours at his law firm. At home all he seems to care about is golf, fishing and sometimes his xbox. He doesn't read novels or relationship/self improvement books but sometimes the news online or something like Maxim. He likes mostly action movies or comedies and when I got him to watch Pillars of the Earth with me he was okay at first but by the last episode he was cranky. He doesn't talk much unless I get him going, but he is very sweet once he does talk. Our romantic life is great but I feel like I don't understand him otherwise. Why is he like this? What else can I do to get to understand him like I feel I once did when we were younger?Why is my husband like this?
I don't know any guy that reads relationship/self improvement books.

Maybe it's because he doesn't see a problem? Only you do.



He cares about golf, fishing and xbox. Do you even want to share in those activities? Why should he participate in your activities when you don't participate in his? My husband likes wrestling, football, and rap music. I do not. i've been to a wrestlemania, watched a ton of football and can recite lyrics from most of his favorite songs. But we do play video games at night once in awhile.



Maxim is not just for men. Women can read it too. Why not read some of those articles and share with him?



You have all these complaints about him but I don't see any effort on your part to get to know him, to share what he likes. Time to get to know him and partake in what he likes.
he actually seems normal. What's the issue? what isn't to understand?
you don't have to like the same things or share the same interests. he doesn't have to like your shows anymore than you like his action movie.

he doesn't need to read romance sh*t. Or self help books,

You said your romance life is great and he is a good hardworking husband that isn't doing anything wrong or disrespecting you

Instead of trying to figure him out or force mutual interests....how about you accept your different tastes and go back to business as normal.Why is my husband like this?
he's just trying to relax after putting in lots of hours at his law firm, and if your romantic life is great, doesn't see the need to work on anything in your relationship. If you think there's a problem here, you need to sit down and outright tell him so. He's not going to put up on subtle hints like leaving relationship books on his night stand.
That's just how he is. That's how some guys are. He wants to do guy stuff and feel manly. He works a lot so he feels that he deserves to do all of that i suppose.Why is my husband like this?
This is what is called being married. In any marriage, things evolve, people change and hopefully they change and grow together and not apart.

He is not you. He's not interested in reading and chooses to relax with his hobbies.

He doesn't want to watch that TV show. It's not interesting and frankly, I just watched the trailer and my husband would probably slit his own throat if I made him watch that.

Guys are guys, really,most of them don't take much to be happy. A sandwich and an Xbox does it for them. For us it's different and you can't over think the way a guy is acting. What you think he should be concerned with he really doesn't give a flying rats a$$ about.

And I have been married a really, really long time.
Are you sure you ever understood him? My guess is that either you are a troll or you thought you could change him in to someone more like you. Didn't he like golf, fishing, and Xbox "when he was younger"? I find it hard to believe that he used to like relationship/self improvement books..most people don't at any age. Pillars of the Earth? I had to google it..I understand why he was cranky by the last episode. It sounds to me like he tries to compromise to accommodate you, you need to reciprocate..Watch the movies that he likes from time to time, play Xbox, go fishing, go golfing..or just relax and let him do his thing and you do yours.