How can I understand my husband better?

He is 34 and works a lot of hours at his law firm. At home all he seems to care about is golf, fishing and sometimes his xbox. He doesn't read novels or relationship/self improvement books but sometimes the news online or something like Maxim. He likes mostly action movies or comedies and when I got him to watch Pillars of the Earth with me he was okay at first but by the last episode he was cranky. He doesn't talk much unless I get him going, but he is very sweet once he does talk. Our romantic life is great but I feel like I don't understand him otherwise. Why is he like this? What else can I do to get to understand him like I feel I once did when we were younger?How can I understand my husband better?
Dear girl..Firstly,you need to understand that this is how men are..he sounds very typical. I don`t know of any man that reads relationship books!! Men are not as interested in expressing emotions the way women are ..they`re just not. Men are usually practical problem solvers so for example if you tell him how you feel he probably will only listen with half an ear {if that] but if you tell him you are cold he will respond and try to find a way to make the house warmer..that is the nature of men. When you say "you don`t understand him" this may be because you are looking for him to be different...he wont. If you just look upon him as being a typical male..you will understand him a lot more. As to understanding him when you were younger...Well for a start people change {and hopefully grow} all the time. the person you knew when younger is not the same person..and you wouldn`t want him to be!! otherwise he would be stuck forever as an adolescent! He is a mature man now with a demanding job and responsibilities..His hobbies are his way of unwinding...I suggest you go to the library and get some books on the Psychology of of the male..that will help you understand his nature..and not be inclined to think of it as any kind of rejection of you....I do wish you luck
What you want is not possible.



The longer you know someone, the MORE you understand them,.... not less.



Seems to me what you want is to go back to what you DIDN'T know back when you were younger. Because what you know about him TODAY is not really what you want in a relationship.



......that's what you get for marrying into money instead of for love.How can I understand my husband better?
understanding starts with communication



magazines are vague and there for entertainment - they are informative up to maybe a good 6%



converse with him in a manner that'd make him feel comfortable - many people don't talk when they feel forced or feel as though they may say the wrong things - make him feel comfty then slip in ur questions without being too probative
Oh Ellen, there's nothing wrong at all, he's just being a guy.



You dont need to fully understand him, just love him and be with him - that's all he needs :)How can I understand my husband better?
Do stuff he likes.